"Be unassuming. Otherwise, you'll cry."

My walls.

Me — i.e, jpenseur

Learning more about myself, I realize that my attachment style mixes both avoidance and anxiety. 
I'm reluctant to devote effort to a relationship with people, not because I hate them but because I feel uncomfortable. As much I long for connection with people, the idea that you can disappoint me or I could disappoint you scares me. I think I can't love someone if they are under the circumstances of a stranger; to love you, you need to penetrate a certain wall of intimacy. 


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