"Be unassuming. Otherwise, you'll cry."

When this, when that

Me — i.e, jpenseur

I feel this overwhelming pressure to change. There are people in life who are dependent on the fact that I change into their ideals. I have been doing my best to be that person for them, but they don't understand how hard change is. They think that steps to my personal growth are as easy as tangible steps; they need to understand how nuanced and involved it is to change. This is especially true for targeted growth. I don't want to lose myself in the process. I wish that the people who put these pressures on me empathize a little about how gentle and meticulous I tend to be. I want to make you all proud, so please just let me go at everything at my own pace.




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